When Queer Communities of Color Are Not Needed to Win Marriage Rights

marriage-equalityWith Iowa being the fourth state to approve marriage equality, lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, and queer Americans’ optimism is high, believing many more states will follow suit.

“We’re hoping this momentum is contagious,” Daniel Richards of Rhode Island told me. And should Rhode Island soon approve of same-sex marriage, it would be the fourth New England state to join Massachusetts, Connecticut, and now Vermont.

But with Rhode Island’s Republican Governor Donald Carcieri recently denouncing same-sex marriage, the battle for LGBTQ Rhode Islanders will be a hard one.

Rhode Island is the only state in New England that does not recognize same-sex marriage, civil unions, or domestic partnerships. And with a governor who supports the National Organization for Marriage, a nonprofit organization with a mission to protect marriage and the faith communities that sustain it, I told Daniels his state’s fight for marriage equality might be similar to California’s Proposition 8 battle.

There are currently two bills in the Rhode Island legislature that would legalize same-sex marriage but Carcieri opposes both bills, stating, “What I don’t want to see happen with this issue is what’s happening in courts deciding things or legislatures deciding things. This is such an important issue I think it should be put to the voters.” And if the governor has his wish the right for LGBTQ Americans to marry will be a referendum on the 2010 ballot.

But Daniels told me that while Rhode Island’s battle for marriage equality will be an arduous one, the fight will not be as difficult for queer Rhode Islanders because the state’s communities of color are small and its faith communities of black ministers even smaller.

“Why would you need people who are not voting with you but against you? In Rhode Island we don’t have to talk about them and don’t have to talk to them. They’re a liability,” Daniels stated.

With the passing of Proposition 8 and blaming the African American community for its victory at the ballot box, the struggle for same-sex marriage showed us that it is a state-by-state battle, where the demographics of each state indeed comes into play.

Some strategists like Daniels, in the Marriage Equality Movement, have felt all along that communities of color – both straight and queer- have slowed the process, progress and momentum in this nationwide culture war. These activists have openly stated and showed in their community strategies and organizing that they don’t want or need queer communities of color, especially in predominately white states, to win the battle.

And their reason is the following:

With enough successive wins from less heterogeneous LGBTQ and straight communities, like Iowa, Connecticut, Vermont, and, yes, even my state of Massachusetts, these judicial endorsements of same-sex marriages not only increase public acceptance of LGBTQ nuptials, but these endorsements can conceivably push more quickly the issue of marriage equality to the federal level for LGBTQ Americans all the way to the U.S. Supreme Court, circumventing our internal wars of class, race, and homophobic faith communities entirely.

“There has been a shift of about 10 percentage points in the past five years in public support for same-sex marriage. On a deep moral issue like this, that’s very rare,” Nathaniel Persily, who teaches law and political science at Columbia University and has tracked public opinion about gay rights after several court decisions, stated to the Associated Press.

The truth of the matter concerning Proposition 8 is that the blaming of its passing ought not be placed on shoulders of African Americans, who comprise just 6.2 percent of the state’s overall population. But this fact plays small in understanding that our government is the culprit here by legally framing a minority group’s civil rights as a ballot question.

So where do go from here without killing each other?

First, our state-by-state battle for marriage equality cannot be framed as a single-issue agenda addressing the concerns and values of an elite few, regardless of the size of its LGBTQ communities of color.

Second, communities of color cannot be deployed in this battle in a used-when-needed basis, like for the movement’s photo-op moments.

Third, inviting communities of color in the decision-making and planning-strategies makes for an inclusive movement.


But not all marriage equality activists from predominately white states feel the marriage equality battle can be successfully won without the input and inclusion of their communities of color.

“If people want equality it takes a lot of people to win. It takes everyone not just one community of people advocating the rights for a few versus advocating the rights for us all, “ stated my masseuse Dale Wingate of Maine.

If Marriage Equality pushed white states first as its game plan to avoid communities of color, as Daniels suggests, it would not only be continuing to push forward a single-issue agenda, but it would also be ignoring vital ways for coalition-building across diverse communities and honorable ways of connecting the struggle for marriage equality of LGBTQ citizens to the wider cause for justice.

Rev. Irene Monroe


  1. MyLeftMind says

    Irene, did you mean to refer to Daniel Richards where you are mentioning “Daniels” in your text?

    Regarding your ending statements:

    If Marriage Equality pushed white states first as its game plan to avoid communities of color, as Daniels suggests, it would not only be continuing to push forward a single-issue agenda, but it would also be ignoring vital ways for coalition-building across diverse communities and honorable ways of connecting the struggle for marriage equality of LGBTQ citizens to the wider cause for justice.

    It would be great if the majority gay rights movement could connect with communities of color, but where religion is the driving force in those communities, it’s relatively fruitless to try to change hearts and minds. My black relatives who are immersed in the church are steadfastly against marriage equality for same-sex couples, primarily because that’s what they’re fed weekly by the church leadership. They are actively resentful about any parallels drawn between the gay rights efforts and the black civil rights movement. On the other hand, my AA relatives who are not so religious are much more accepting of the concept of equal rights for all Americans. They perceive similarities between racism and homophobia and truly understand why LGBT folks are fighting for their rights. In my experience, education levels seem to play a role, but the predominant factor is what people are taught in church and in the home. Like the master-slave mentality taught and reinforced in the southern US for a hundred years after emancipation, churches are still promoting the “God hates gays” mentality that is more often heard now as “Love the sinner, hate the sin.” This meme implies that LGBT people are unnatural and against God’s laws, and that same-sex marriage will somehow hurt heterosexual couples. In fact, traditional marriage is being portrayed as if it has always been the “one man, one woman” form recently used in this country. In reality, traditional marriage was often polygamous, disallowed divorce and legally transferred “ownership” of girls and women from their fathers to their new husbands. Yet churches promote this imaginary God-ordained lifelong marital commitment as if we still enforce that arrangement in today’s civil marriage. The lies that are being promoted in black churches and fundamentalist white churches, like the lies that reinforced white superiority, are not easy to change because they’re coming from respected and venerated religious leaders.

    While I agree that the mostly white gay rights activists and groups should always reach out and include minorities, especially because of the need to create an inclusive movement with broad decision-making and planning-strategies for viable solutions. But when it comes to religious resistance to equality, perhaps we are better off focusing in states like Rhode Island where there are fewer voters being misled by church leaders promoting inequality. It’s not the communities of color that are the barrier to equal rights for LGBTs, it’s the bigotry promoted and reinforced by religious communities that is the hardest barrier to overcome.

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