The Lowdown on Black Ministers Living on the Down Low: Son’s Arrest Raises Questions about Bishop T.D. Jakes’s Sexuality

When preachers pontificate about the sins of homosexual sex, they need to be careful of what they say; their words invariably will be back to bite them, as we have seen with fallen evangelical star Pastor Ted Haggard.

For Bishop T.D. Jakes, the internationally known African American evangelical star dubbed as the black Billy Graham, his rantings against homosexuality have come back to bite him via his eldest son who was recently arrested in a sex sting.

On January 3, Jermaine Jakes was arrested in a sex sting for openly soliciting gay sex from an undercover vice detective in a public park just a few blocks from his father’s church, The Potter’s House, a 30,000-member megachurch in Dallas.

The arrest warrant affidavit filed by Dallas Police detectives on Jermaine Jakes stated:

Suspect Jakes walked directly over to where Detective X was, and stood next to Detective X with his penis exposed through his unzipped pants…Suspect Jakes committed the offense of indecent exposure by exposing his erect penis in a public place with his intent to gratify or arouse the sexual desire of himself. Suspect Jakes was reckless about whether another was present who would be offended or alarmed by his actions.

While Bishop Jakes is tight-lipped on the topic of his son’s homosexuality, the African American LGBTQ community is not. As a matter of fact, the son’s arrest has that community abuzz with rumors resurfacing about Bishop Jake’s sexuality.

In September 2005, activists Keith Boykin and Jasmyne Cannick kicked off a five-part series, “Outing Black Pastors,” on their respective websites by querying publicly whether prominent pastors in the black community — like Bishops T.D. Jakes and Eddie Long — who constantly rail against LGBTQ people, were actually struggling with their own sexual orientation.

But black ministers living on the “downlow” (DL) is not a new phenomenon in the African American community, naming it publicly, however, is (Note: on the downlow or on the DL is a label used for men who are in heterosexual relationships but secretly have homosexual relations)

J.L. King, who became the country’s poster boy by exposing this behavior in his best-seller, On The Down Low: A Journey into the Lives of “Straight” Black Men Who Sleep with Men, stated, not surprisingly, that many of his partners were churchmen:

There are gospel conventions throughout the nation for churches. There is one for ushers, Sunday school departments, music departments, and ministers . . . These events allow men to meet men and to have sex while away from their hometowns. Many midnight concerts turn into affairs where brothers are cruising each other. I’ve been there, seen it and done it.”

Many African American men, loving on the down low, say there are two salient features that contribute to this subculture — white gay culture and the Black Church. DL men deliberately segregate themselves from both black and white gay cultures and adopt an alternative black masculinity that only wants to have sex and socialize with other black men. But class is a factor here, too. While many gay African American men have the economic mobility to reside outside of the black community and are likely to intermingle with the dominant gay culture, most DL men don’t.

“They’ve created a community of their own, a cultural party where whites aren’t invited. Labeling yourself as DL is a way to disassociate from everything white and upper class. . . And that is a way for DL men to assert some power,” George Ayala, director of education for AIDS Project Los Angeles, told the LA Times in a 2003 article.

But the Black Church’s conservative gender roles and anti-gay theology also contribute to this subculture. Bishop Jakes defines homosexuality in men as a spiritual “brokenness, due to long-term imprisonment, absentee fathers, having been sexually abused, or not knowing how to have healthy social relationships with men.”

The poster boy for African American ex-gay ministers, gospel mega-star Pastor Donnie McClurkin, feels similarly to Jakes, stating he was once sexually abused by an uncle, which brought about his proclivity to same-sex attraction:

There’s a group that says, ‘God made us this way,’ but then there’s another group that knows God didn’t make them that way. Love is pulling you one way and lust is pulling you another, and your relationship with Jesus is tearing you.

Bishop Jakes told the Dallas Voice he would never hire a sexually active gay person to his ministry, but that’s hard to believe. Why? Because there are two types of gay masculinities in the Black church. One expresses itself fairly openly in the choir with the choirmaster who may well be gay. Not surprisingly, Bishop Jakes is a former choirmaster.

The other conceals itself within a homosocial community of DL male clerics who find camaraderie at black pastors’ conferences or at all-male conferences like T.D. Jakes’s “Manifest” conference.  These clerics exploit their ecclesiastical authority by using anti-gay rhetoric and the Bible as their cover-up.

“To date, I have not seen scriptural authority that allows me to stand on behalf of God and say I now pronounce you husband and husband, and wife and wife. This is an issue the government is undecided about.The Bible is not”, Bishop Jakes told USA Today.

irene-headshot.jpgMany African American brothers have said that T.D. Jakes is too “swishy and sweet” to not question his sexuality. But Jermaine Jakes is unapologetically and unabashedly gay.

Some in the African American community say the younger Jakes behaves flamboyant intentionally and acts sexually reckless to publicly deride and embarrass his homophobic dad. But there are others in the community who say Jermaine is just like his dad, but he is not hiding in a stained-glass closet.

Rev. Irene Monroe


  1. SolomonL says

    When is it ok to call wrong, wrong, I am a Christian, I go to church. My feeling is i don’t agree with the celebration of anything goes. My feeling is what you do in your home is your business, however don’t call me homophobic if i don’t celebrate it, wave a banner and condone your choices. I believe marriage is between a man and a woman. In america the constitution may give you the right to do it because of property rights and equal protection under the law, i get that. Like i said do you. I won’t protest your right to do you, just don’t call me or label me homophobic if i don’t support it. So if Pastor’s and me of the Church are doing you have a legitimate beef to call them on their hypocrisy. Fair is Fair.

    • The CHOSEN ONE In 1999 says

      AMEN – & I Applaud The Son, not on His Vile Disgusting Behavior, But For Not Being A Closeted Hypocrite

  2. KenS says

    Christianity, and other religions, have condoned some of mankinds most vile behavior. The Catholic church has condoned Homosesuality and protected homosexuals within the church since the days of the Roman Empire. It’s also actively participated in, and profited from, man’s greatest inhumanity to man, the African/European slave trade.

    It has been said that Jesus participated in what has been called THE WHITE LINEN CEREMONY, where he shared life giving fluids with a young man. When I’ve brought this up to Christians, they quickly refer to WATER as the life giving fluid being referenced. Siemen is a life giving fluid(part of the fertilization process)while water is just a life sustaining fluid.

    The church’s struggles on the issue of homosexuality is due to a conflict between two cultural influences within the church. One is the ancient culture that exists within the heirachy of the church itself, especially the Catholic church, that influences the permissive attitude toward homosexuality. Then there’s the modern cultures opposing view on homosexuality. This culture is comprised of people who attend and provide financial support for the church, which seems to have become it’s main focus.

  3. Robert4Jesus says

    Rev Monroe,

    Just to be clear, are you a gay activist? The answer gives better perspective to your well written article… Thanks.


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